Much has been made of the idea that women want to have it all. Can a woman have the career she wants and be the mom her kids deserve to have? Can she do all that without sacrificing any part of herself? These questions get bandied about a lot. But when the idea of having it all is focused entirely on women, we end up excluding an entire gender. Men are also trying to balance every aspect of their lives. Fathers are just as prone to wanting to have it all. They have the added disadvantage of constantly being treated like a parent that doesn't really do the same amount of work that moms do.We still talk about fatherhood in this really gendered way, and we act like dads are babysitters when they're parents with the same amount of responsibility as any mom. Dads are parents too, and they also want to have it all. However, while a father "having it all" looks a little different than a mother having it all, it's not. Here's why fathers are also trying to have it all, and what that looks like in comparison to their maternal counterparts.