People in relationships fight. It’s a part of being in relationships. You show me a couple who’s never had a fight throughout their relationship, you’ve shown me a liar. Fights are normal. Fights are even healthy at points, because there are some fights that absolutely need to be had. What really makes the difference here is if you’re fighting in a productive way, because not all fights are productive.An argument in a relationship can’t just be for nothing. It has to have a specific purpose, or else you’re fighting over nothing, and that’s the opposite of productive. Sometimes, however, you’re so close to the relationship that you can’t see the pattern of fruitless fights appearing in front of you. Here’s how to tell if your relationship is about to get on the roller coaster of purposeless fighting, and what you can do to stop it.