For many women, sex is fun and something we look forward to, but for others, our bodies can literally, physically block anything coming near our vaginas. This could be the result of psychological trauma, or it can be something you grow up with, but regardless of the cause, the condition is called vaginismus and it can be really hard to live with. Not only can it be physically painful to have sex, it can be physically painful all the time and affect your quality of life, not to mention your relationships.Not only do many women live with vaginismus, many women actually conquer it. It’s not a disease, it’s actually a muscle spasm that causes your vagina to tense up to the point where nothing can be let inside. This isn’t even just sexual things; this can include tampons and even gynecological tools. That means it can actually be cured with things like psychological therapy and pelvic floor therapy, among other things. Here’s what it’s like to live with vaginismus, from the mouths of real women living with it.